Modest Clothing For Women: Everything You Need To Know
In this post you're going to learn everything you need to know about modest clothing for women. We're going to show you where to buy it, what it is, why you should wear it, how to shop for it, and how to style it!
Let's get started!
Where to buy modest clothing online
What do these tweets have in common?
Is it weird to get super excited that I’ve finally found four MODEST dresses for church? I feel like no one understands— Cailyn Jade (@bloomwithstyle) November 30, 2017
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND MODEST CLOTHES?!???— ✨ Quinny ✨ (@Quinn__Adelia) December 10, 2017
Someone has to sell fashionable and modest dresses and skirts right? It seems I can either have one or the other.— LDS Primary Pres. (@PrimaryPres) September 9, 2017
These women can't find what they're looking for! There's more tweets just like that out there. Perhaps you're in the same situation. Liz, our co-founder, was in the same boat 2 years ago and really struggled to find affordable modest clothes in Utah. Because of this, we have made it our life's mission to offer this to you.
Next time you're looking for modest apparel, we hope you'll choose to buy from us! Everything in our shop is what you're looking for. You'll find that our cute modest dresses will always have sleeves, never be too low cut in the front, and go below the knee in length.
Here's an example:
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What is considered modest clothing?
Modest clothing for women is clothing that's not too tight, too short, or too revealing. Great examples of this include: longer skirts, longer shorts, shirts that have sleeves, shirts that cover the stomach, clothing that covers the shoulders, and clothing that isn't low cut in the front or the back. When it comes to modest swimsuits, one pieces and tankinis are the most appropriate.
Asking yourself if you feel comfortable with your appearance if you were in the Lord's presence helps you figure out if your outfit is modest or not. The answer should be clear - you will want to look your very best!
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Silvia H. Allred in her talk, "Modesty: A Timeless Principle for All", gave us some additional questions for us to ask.
- Am I exposing too much of my body when I sit down, bend over, reach up, or climb stairs?
- Do I call attention to myself by wearing clothing that is revealing or provocative?
- Do I need to adjust, tuck, or rearrange my temple garments in order to wear a particular item?
Why you should wear modest fashion
Ultimately, women should wear what makes them feel comfortable. For those who are looking to start wearing conservative clothing, there are several solid reasons for doing so. They are: being a good disciple of Christ, helping you stay chaste, have the companionship of the Spirit, sending the right message to others, respect for the Lord, and keeping you focused in school.
Shows discipleship to the Lord
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When Jesus was giving the sermon on the mount (Matthew 7:23), he says, "And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity."
There's probably no sadder thing to hear from our Lord. On the Judgment Day, we want to be found on the Lord's right hand, not his left. Only his disciples will be counted among those he calls sheep. (See Matthew 25:33)
How do we make sure we are on the right side? We must keep his commandments and follow Him. His prophets have taught about modesty for a long time and this is just one small thing He has asked of us. Let's obey and be true disciples!
It helps both men and women be chaste
This reason for dressing modestly is a sensitive area. Please know that I believe that both men and women will all be appropriately judged for our own individual actions. (2 Nephi 9:15) The way a woman dresses affects both herself and the men around her. Consider the following quotes:
- "Our Heavenly Father wants us to keep our bodies covered so that we do not encourage improper thoughts in the minds of others." Source
- “Modesty is at the center of being pure and chaste, both in thought and deed. Thus, because it guides and influences our thoughts, behavior, and decisions, modesty is at the core of our character.” Source
- "It is especially important that we teach young girls not to wear clothes that would encourage young men to have improper thoughts." Source
- "Revealing and sexually suggestive clothing, which includes short shorts and skirts, tight clothing, and shirts that do not cover the stomach, can stimulate desires and actions that violate the Lord’s law of chastity." Source
Keeps you worthy of the Spirit
Believe it or not, the way we dress affects whether or not the Spirit will be with us. Elder Hales has said the following:
- "When we dress for attention, we are not inviting the Spirit to be with us.
- "Modesty is fundamental to being worthy of the Spirit. To be modest is to be humble, and being humble invites the Spirit to be with us."
- "We do not dress to attract attention to ourselves, thus distracting others and causing the Spirit to depart."
Strive to be worthy of the companionship of the Spirit so you can benefit from the many blessings doing so provides. Some of these include: sanctification, new gifts and talents, seeing with spiritual eyes, confirmation of truth, comfort, being warned, being taught, and being guided.
Sends the right message to others
God expects us to be an example to others. From the Sermon on the Mount we learn the following:
"Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven." (Matthew 5:14-16)
In the For The Strength of Youth pamphlet we are instructed with:
"When you dress immodestly, you send a message that is contrary to your identity as a son or daughter of God. You also send the message that you are using your body to get attention and approval."
Let's get out there and show others that we are children of God and that we are not of the world.
Shows respect for yourself and the Lord
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We have all been given two amazing gifts from the Lord - our bodies and the Atonement. Great insight can be drawn from the Parable of the unjust steward found in Luke 16:1-8. We will be held accountable for those things we were stewards over - our bodies being one of those things. The way we dress for worship shows our reverence for the Lord. We should always dress modestly, but especially during worship inside the Lord's house.
Keeps you focused in learning
You might remember back to your years in elementary school where your school said that your skirts had to be fingertip length. At the time you probably didn't understand why, but perhaps the following quote from "Modest is Hottest? The Revealing Truth" by Lindsay & Lexie Kite, Ph.D. sheds some light on why schools enforce dress codes:
"Girls and women who are in a state of self-consciousness perform worse on math tests, logical reasoning tests, athletic performance, and have lower sexual assertiveness (including the ability to say “no” when needed). Self-objectification leads to an increase in disordered eating and cosmetic surgery procedures, low participation in leadership positions, and leads girls to quit pursuits of math and science at greater rates.** Girls and women LOSE — and so do the men all around us — when we fixate on bodies."
Next time you or your daughter complain about this remember that the school has your best interests in mind when it comes to creating a good learning environment!
How to shop boutique clothing online
Online shopping can be difficult, especially when you can't try the items on and feel the fabric. We understand that and will do everything we can to make shopping for modest fashion a breeze.
There are a few things that will help you have the best shopping experience possible and to minimize the hassle of returns. First, don't hesitate to send us an email or a message on social media with any questions you might have. We check all of our messages and respond to them promptly!
Second, know your measurements for your bust, waist, length, and height. Use the following image and guide to help you take accurate measurements.
Big thanks to Meg Healy for this awesome image!
How to style modest clothing
You can style modest attire with layers or by buying clothes that don't require layering. Both work and neither is better than the other. It really just comes down to preference. The latter is more trendy!
If you're new to layering reading "Layers Are Your New Best Friend" will get you started off on the right foot.
Sometimes you'll find a cute piece of clothing that you want to wear, but find out that it isn't modest. For those times, layering tees and skirt extenders will be your best friends. For more information on how to use these, read this awesome post by Blaze Ann Carbonell.
Reading modest fashion blogs and following those bloggers on Instagram is the best way to learn how to style modest clothes. Additionally, the Church has a really helpful page that teaches sister missionaries how to dress while proselyting. Sisters should look their best while representing the Lord in the mission field.
Before Lynn Choi went on her mission, she filmed an awesome video with 3 missionary outfits that you could easily replicate for yourself.
We hope this page has given you everything you needed to know about modest clothing for women. Now that you'd made it to the end, what are you waiting for?